Have we lost our spirit of forgiveness?


To the Editor:

In West Warwick last week, a 42-year-old man who I don't know personally was appointed to a town board, despite a felony conviction on his record. Long ago in another time in his life back in 2000, he was a 23-year-old working at Metacomet Country Club. One night during a low point in his personal

life, he was drinking heavily and stole some tournament memorabilia and was subsequently arrested. That tournament was a fundraiser for a fallen policeman, and one might imagine that the arresting officers were not sympathetic toward him. There was likely sufficient evidence for a larceny charge, but he was charged with felony embezzlement and convicted. While

he never went to prison, he was handed a life sentence. From that day forward, every time he applied for a job, he was looked at as an embezzler.

When stopped for speeding, his conviction was displayed on the screen in the officer's patrol car, raising doubt. Co-workers, business colleagues and people he has dated have all likely checked into him and always had their suspicions.

Politics is a dirty game and it infiltrates every aspect of our lives. In West Warwick, which like my city is struggling with unfunded pension liabilities, local politics are extremely contentious. Somewhat distinct from Warwick where a single faction dominates the political landscape, in West Warwick two robust movements have emerged with each side engaging in

open warfare in an attempt to destroy the other. Despite the battlefield conditions, and though his conviction remained, this man decided to get involved in politics and apply to a town board. As soon as he was appointed, the long knives came out, the media was notified, and WPRI 12 presented him to the people of Rhode Island in their report as the "felon

on the West Warwick pension board." At 42 years old he now gets to relive that infamous night when he was 23, as his character and reputation are being destroyed right before our eyes.

I have followed the reaction to the story across social media, and to my surprise the public generally doesn't seem to care that he has made a strong effort to rehabilitate himself and step forward to serve his community. He is being portrayed as a terrible person who hates the police and stole from a dead officer, and therefore he deserves to be publicly humiliated.

My question is: when is a man allowed to be free again and move on with his life and become the greatest version of himself? As a child I was taught that people are human beings, fundamentally flawed, born with original sin, and that our sins may be forgiven. Have we now decided that destroying a

man's character is justified, so long as it serves our political objectives?

I used to believe that Americans are compassionate and forgiving people, willing to accept the flawed man who has fallen and quick to celebrate his comeback. Now I wonder if we have lost that spirit of forgiveness, and have become so hopelessly divided that our stances on political issues now

define our value as human beings.

The day before this report was filed was the anniversary of The Station fire, and I wrote a post on my Facebook page reminding everyone about the brave heroes who ran back to the fire in an unselfish act to try to help free someone else who they probably didn't even know. The basic theme was to remember to look out for each other, be compassionate, and try to make a positive impact in other people's lives any time we can. This weekend,

Catholics around the world are praying for a renewal of trust and faith in the Church and to renew those whose faith has been shaken by scandal. I think everyone in our community, religious or not, should consider forgiveness for people whose crimes were much less egregious than the terrible acts committed by priests. Young people will always make mistakes, our criminal justice system is not fair or equal, and the court of public opinion is unforgiving. I hope that at some point this man who

seemed only to want to serve his community and put himself out there at a vulnerable time in his life will be forgiven. I have never met him, but I am certain that this is a man who is a much greater person in real life than the one he plays in this story. He deserves a second chance.

Dan Elliott


Dan Elliott was the Independent challenger in the two previous elections for Rhode Island's 20th House District seat.


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We can forgive yet insist he not be on a board that oversees millions of dollars in tax payer funds. It makes the pension board look foolish.

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Funny you reference the Catholic Church. Proof that forgiveness can cause irreparable harm. The problem would have never grown to the extent it did if the priests were held accountable for their crimes. Instead, they were moved around and harmed even more innocent victims.

Forgiveness is one thing. Common sense is another. While I am sure there were extenuating circumstances in this mans life, it doesn't change the fact that he was convicted of a crime and that the citizens have a right to challenge his presence based on his past actions. The town didn't destroy his character and reputation. He did that himself. He has to live with the consequences of his actions. Isn't that what we teach young people? Actions have consequences. Instead of scolding those that brought up his criminal past, why not use it as a teaching moment as to why it is important to think about your future before doing something STUPID!

That you don't even know this man yourself and don't have any clue about who he is, how he lives his life and his character is alarming to me. You are actually asking everyone to turn off their brain and make decisions based on emotion. Is that really the message you want to put out there?

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Cat, the one without sin, casts the first stone. Thanks for your critique and have a pleasant evening.

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Strangely enough, your letter and subsequent reply brought Matthew 7:1-5 to my mind. I mean, you did kind of cast the first stone at those people you felt weren't "forgiving" enough of this young mans past, were you not? In a weird way, you were upset at people for not letting go of this mans past and judging them all at the same time....a real conundrum. One I will let go of (Proverbs 71:14).

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

We can forgive...and will forgive. But you can't forget that he was arrested for stealing...when he was an ADULT....and should have known better. I would agree with your argument if he was a child when this happened. But a 23 year old is an adult and is held accountable for his actions. He should not be allowed in a position where he oversees finances and money. Period.

Wednesday, February 27, 2019

Forgiveness is different than forgetting. If this was a rapist that had paid his debt to society and kept his nose clean for 20 years are you going to let him watch your daughters?

Thursday, February 28, 2019